Self-help Resources

In the last couple of months I've gone to a couple of networking events for people in tech here in Berlin. And where the ones that were just for women, women were very chatty and open there, but on the mixed ones I realized that I was networking mostly with men. On the last one, out of around 20 people I had a longer chat with, there was only one woman. To make it even more telling, when men heard that I work with women in tech as a coach, they got really excited and asked to

You feel something is off. Maybe you've been performing great at work, and yet you stay awake at night wondering if you're in the right place, if you're becoming the right person, if made the right choice with your career path. Maybe you've been told you're talented, but you struggle to believe it. Maybe you're managing a team, trying to find your place in a male-dominated environment, or building something meaningful, and you're doing it mostly alone, without anyone to think

I once heard that I needed to "men up" to be taken seriously in a team full of men. A friend of mine got feedback that her leadership style was too "girly." This was not happening somewhere far away or in some outdated industry. This was happening here, in Berlin, in one of the most progressive tech ecosystems in Europe. Different words, same message. And if you are a woman working in tech, chances are you have heard something similar. Maybe not in those exact words. Maybe it

There is a particular kind of exhaustion that does not come from working too hard. It comes from working in a way that does not feel like you. I see it often in women in tech. Women who are deeply values-driven, who care about doing things right, who bring integrity and thoughtfulness to everything they do. And who somehow end up feeling out of place in environments that seem to reward something completely different. It is not burnout from overwork. It is something less tangi

If you have ever been the only woman in the room, you know that feedback does not always land the same way. It is not just the words, but also the context around them. The awareness that you are being watched a little more carefully, judged a little more quickly, that there is less margin for error. That if you push back you might be seen as difficult, and if you stay silent you might be seen as unsure. That if you are too confident you are arrogant, and if you show any doubt

During my time in the tech world I had countless 1:1s, coffee chats and spontaneous catch-ups, and there are five things I hear from women in tech that honestly break my heart a little. Not because they are unusual, but because I have said some of them myself and I know how much they can hold you back without you even realising it. "I need to understand the technical stuff better before I can speak up." I remember joining my first tech company and feeling like everyone spoke

For a long time I thought I was helping. When there was silence in the room, I filled it. When a conversation slowed down, I picked it up. When someone seemed hesitant, I jumped in. I told myself I was keeping things moving, making people comfortable, leading the room. Then I moved into the tech world. A world full of introverted, deeply thoughtful people who had plenty to say. They just needed a moment to say it. And I realised something uncomfortable: I wasn't helping. I wa

The world is changing faster than most of us can process. Systems that worked yesterday are failing today. Decisions made with the best available data turn out to be wrong — not because of poor judgment, but because the ground shifted while the plan was being executed. Anxiety is no longer an edge case. It has become the default operating mode for a lot of people — and perhaps no group feels this more acutely than software developers. We are living in what Jamais Cascio calls

And why doing nothing might be the costliest thing you can do. We've all been told that mistakes are okay. That failure is part of the process. That we should "embrace the journey." But most of the time, this advice feels hollow — a motivational poster slapped on top of a fear that doesn't go away. So what if we skipped the pep talk and went straight to the neuroscience? Because here's what's actually true: from a biological standpoint, your brain is literally incapable of le

" No single reason can be found for the man failing to fulfill his true potential to its fullest but for one: He himself is the blocking factor and keeps turning the flow toward the wrong cause ." Ivan Antic In nature, everything regulates itself relatively naturally. If we don’t disturb it, nature knows its course — which direction to go, what it needs now. With people, it is similar. We naturally feel what is good for us , which direction we want to go, whether something r

“You are not here to be like anyone else. The task is to recognize and cherish your difference.” James Hillman

Most of my work as a coach foc uses on identifying beliefs that stop people from moving forward. Very often, what holds us back is not laziness, lack of motivation, or lack of skill — it’s what we believe about ourselves and the world around us. Limiting beliefs are a very stigmatized topic and often lead to the question: “What do I do to get rid of them?” But what if I told you that you don’t have to?That you can live with them — and even befriend them? Here are 5 steps tha